This article is providing a general overview of spiritual wisdom. It is not based on any particular spiritual tradition or belief system but is rather a summary of wisdom found in many of them. You will learn about unconscious habits and patterns playing out in your mind and how you can understand the connection between your thoughts, your actions and your life experience. Finally it will provide you with a set of tools which can improve your life by becoming more conscious and more aware.
Chapter 1 : Positive Manifestation
Any physical object consists of energy that can have information, memory, purpose or thought. Information has polarity, it can be of positive or negative nature. Long durations of negative programming can lead to physical illments.
Harmonization and manifestation
Harmonization with other people is important for successful manifestation.
The meta-physical formula for the manifestation power of a group is N² with N being the amount of people being in harmony.
If you are not in harmony with yourself (which most people are) your power to manifest goes down :
Being in harmony with yourself means healing your past and any issues you have with selflove.
In order to be in harmony with another person you have to release all your fears of this person reading any of your thoughts. This implies no judgment or any other form of blockage. Only in this case N equals 2
From energy to manifestation
Everything we experience in life can be traced back to energy. We are programming this energy with our thoughts and actions. Both - thoughts and actions - can be either conscious or unconscious. We generally have a choice on the polarity of our thoughts and actions. They can be positive, negative or neutral. You can be successful and achieve what you want on the positive as well as on the negative path. The neutral path is a path where you deny to choose and just allow things to happen.
The negative path
The negative path is about "service to self". It is all about controlling others through various mechanisms. This path is all about holding on tight to what you have.
In order to master the negative path you have to master the following 4 control dramas :
- Aloof - withdraw from conversations with other people
- Poor Me - contant complaining and wallowing in self-pity
- Intimitator - making other people feed bad about themselves
- Interrogator - asking questions which upset other people
(They will be explained in more detail in Chapter 2)
From an energetic point of view people on the negative path are energy takers. They feed of other peoples life energy and they manipulate them so they give their energy to them. Many people on the negative path are unaware of any these mechanisms, the mechanisms are - for the most part - unconscious. Once you became aware of the control dramas you can use them much more efficiently on others. Controlling people always need to have other people around them, because if they are alone they have nobody to draw energy from. On this path there is always a win-loose relationship, because one person has to give energy to another person.
Feelings, traits or actions associated with the negative path : Hate, anger, anxiety, jealousy, fear, lying, cheating, stealing, stress, greed, arguing, deception, competition
The positive path
The positive path is about "service to others". It is all about releasing, giving and being supportive - so the exact opposite to holding on and taking from others. Giving particularly relates to energy because if you are on this path you know that you can draw any energy you need from a divine source and can share it freely with other people. Drawing energy from source requires that you know how to balance your chakras and draw energy through them from the divine source whenever you need it. You live your life in a way that relies on the universe as a positive feedback machanism that provides you with what you put out into the universe yourself. On this path there is always a win-win relationship between people. What is important about the positive path is that it requires wisdom. If you are lacking wisdom, you will not be aware of manipulation by people who are on the negative path and they will derail you from the positive path.
The 5 key aspects of the positive path are :
- Love - being loving and kind to others
- Awareness - being conscious about walking the positive path
- Understanding - being compassionate about other peoples ignorance
- Growth - is one result of love, awareness and understanding
- Healing - is another result of love, awareness and understanding
Feelings, traits or actions associated with the positive path : Compassion, giving, helping, responsibility, honesty, integrity
The neutral path
The vast majority of the population is neither on the positive or the negative path, because they are unware of their ability to choose to become an active creator of their life experience. They neither give or take energy permanently and prefer to see no change in their life. The main motto of the neutral path is "Catalyst has ambigious and obscure side effects" which means that - because you dont know about the ways how to manifest events in your life - you manifest sometimes something positive, sometimes something negative and your manifestations might have unintended side effects because you did not specify pricisely what you wanted to receive. Energy-wise you are an energy yo-yo because you constantly switch between giving and taking energy which makes you conflictive and lets you experience chaos on some level of your life regularly.
Changes to your life
Once you become aware of your ability to choose and make a decision for either the positive of the negative path this will trigger changes in your life : Events and people that match your new path will enter your life while people and events which don't match your path will move out of your life. Many aspects of your life experience while switching to a new path will be uniquely arranged so that they align and incorporate themes you experienced earlier in life but if you pay attention you will find clues and patterns you can match to the scheme described in this article.
One aspect to pay attention to are your dreams. They will support you in your choice to switch to a new path by reminding you of unresolved issues from your past which require healing.
Chapter 2 : Breaking Control Dramas
We are all taught subconsciously about control dramas during our childhood by observing other people's behaviour. All control dramas are about getting energy. For many people they are the only way they know on how to maintain their life force. Any participation in control dramas will pull you towards negative polarity. Control dramas are initiated through words, actions, thoughts and deeds.
Definition of the 4 roles
- Intimidator : Any kind of abuse (verbal or physical), can involve gestures, glares or body language. Anybody that is yelling, screaming or arguing is trying to intimidate.
- Poor Me : Always depressed, always whines about their life, never happy, always has an ailment and has to talk about it all the time to make themself feel comfortable (in order to draw energy from other people - through sympathy of others for their problems)
- Interrogator : Asking questions to reveal something personal
- Aloof : Someone who does not like to answer questions
Control dramas exist in any relationship where the involved parties do not see eye to eye and they become codependencies :
The counterpart to Intimidator is Poor Me. The counterpart to Interrogator is Aloof.
Control dramas can be voluntary and involuntary
Volunatary control dramas involve lying and deception for self-interest, self-empowerment and greed. These are voluntary because people could stop using them at any time but they are using them for an agenda to control others.
Involuntary control dramas are used by a person in authority (parents, corporations, governments). The control can come in form of threats to induce fear. They are often used because a person does not act responsibly (in case of a child maybe because the child does not know any better) so an authority figure is put in place to control them. This mechanism is also used by universe to avoid self-harming behaviour due to ignorance.
Children and control dramas
Children learn control dramas from an early age. It starts by something very natural : If the child has an unmet need the only way to articulate itself is through crying. This way the child learns that the role of the intimidator works perfectly for them because everytime they cry, someone comes and helps them. When looking at the control dramas of older children it has been discovered that the control drama they master best is the control drama the parent they are closer to has mastered best. So the child unconsciously is reinacting the strategy of this parent.
Control dramas are enforced through the education system which is build on the principle of competition. Many boys are brought up to be aggressive (Don't show your fears, show that you are stronger than the other kids). Particularly sports are a good training in this case because you can beat others and you can feel good about it because you are subconsciously feeding of the looser's energy.
This continues into the teenage years : Children who are popular e.g. due to having charisma quickly figure out that they can manipulate their peers by playing control dramas on them to harness their energy. Without any understanding about control dramas there is no way out of them because - as mentioned before - most people are totally unaware of using control dramas on others. It is a habit they learned as a child and they never even knew that there is alternative path available.
How to break out of the cycle of control dramas
The two key aspects of breaking control dramas are awareness and understanding. You can only get out of a control drama if you are aware of it and if you understand which control drama you are experiencing, what level you are involved at and who initiated the control drama.
Once you have awareness and understanding, all you need to do is manage your own energy. Methods how to do this are : Centering, breathing tools, release exercises and finding peace within yourself. Managing to remain at peace within yourself can be achieved by letting go of emotional attachments to certain trigger words. It is key to be aware that the person trying to involve you in a control drama wants you to emotionally explode so they can harvest your energy.
The most frequent start of a control drama involves wanting to prove somebody else wrong and the only way to avoid it is by developing enough self-confidence that you don't feel the need to do so and to simply accept that the other person has a different view on this subject.
The most effective measure to avoid getting pulled into a control drama is not to play ball and simply stop reacting to attempts of other people to get you involved in a control drama. It is all about stoping to react and to take a smart action instead. If the initiator realizes that he is not successful at getting you involved he might elevate the control drama to the next level by using more forceful measures (e.g. yelling at you) or to switch to a different control drama (e.g. switching from Intimidator to Poor Me). Another possibility is that - on a subconscious level - the initiator realizes that he is spending more energy on trying to get you involved in a control drama than he gets back and he simply gives up. If you are successful multiple times at breaking control dramas or not even getting involved in them, people will realize that they don't even have to try them anymore on you because they are only depleting themselves and don't get any energy back from you.
If you find yourself in a control drama and can not find any way out of it, a measure that often works is saying "I hear and understand you" because this diffuses the situation and is confusion to the attacker.
It's also important to not try mastering control dramas by using what you learned about them to control others. Because in the end, everything you try to control will end up controlling you. This rule is valid for any aspects of life (money, relationships, etc) if you only look at the topic on a large enough time scale.
Controlling others also includes aspects like forcing knowledge onto them or telling them how they should solve their problems. It is not your job to prevent other people's problems, you might point out to them how you perceive their situation, which options you see are possible for them and which consequences these options have but you can not simply make this choice for them. This is about honoring the path of the other person and about accepting that you might not fully understand which lessons this person wants to learn from their experience. Through taking responsibility for their experience by forcing your knowledge upon them, you are limiting their growth and thus are initiating a control drama even though you might not have intended to.
So the only way to move out of these control dramas is by raising your consciousness, becoming aware of them, stopping to participate in them and relying on the principle that once you outgrow them, they will not happen to you anymore. By changing your habits of playing along in control dramas you will also help others to change because they will realize that they don't work anymore for them once the people in their environment changed.
This was the first of two articles dealing with spiritual and psychological aspects of your daily life experience. Part two deals with "Learning from Experiences" and "Manifesting your Thoughts".
The content of this article is based on a 4 part lecture by Ivan Stein. The lecture is available in the Resources section.